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Two Perspectives on Breakups: A Boy’s Guide
March 7, 2017
I’m starting to realize that maybe I’m not meant for relationships. I can’t seem to make them last so we end up breaking up. And like with most people, the breakups are usually hard to do and end up being really awkward. But of course I’ve learned a few things to make breakups go along more smoothly.
First things first, you need to take a nice hard look at your relationship. If you find yourself avoiding your significant other or vice versa, that might be a sign that you should start thinking about seeing other people.
One warning sign is when either person gets annoyed easily. This usually starts to happen when the two have spent a ridiculous amount of time together and it might just mean that you need some alone time to sort things out. If there is no longer any trust in the relationship, if one of the two is being unfaithful, or if there is any abuse in any way, shape or form, you should definitely be thinking about ways to end the relationship.
There are countless ways to breakup with someone. From the classic, “It’s not you, it’s me” to the “I need some space” and even the ever jokeful “Want to see a magic trick? Abracadabra!
You’re single.” My personal favorite way to end a relationship is with the fade away. For those of you that have no idea what the fade away is, it’s when you gradually stop talking to your significant other until you hardly have any contact.
Once you reach the point of hardly ever talking or if she confronts you, all you have to say is that you two are drifting away and that it’s not the same anymore. This is perfect because it gives her time to get used to the idea of you not being there anymore.
It’s a win win situation, it spares her feelings and it leaves the door slightly open for you to drop back in the future.
The fade away gives you an opportunity to fix what you did if you start to have second doubts because you can always come back into her life just as she’s getting over you and hit her with the “What happened to us?”
But I do have to admit, in some cases the good old fade away doesn’t work. For these extremely rare occasions, the best way to proceed has to be with the truth.
You have to just be honest with your soon to be ex. Please try to refrain from humiliating the person you once cared for and break the news to them in private. And definitely not through text, that is one of the most insensitive ways to end things.