With blended families far outnumbering traditional (children living with heterosexual parents in their first marriage) 64% to 46%, it’s no wonder the holidays are complicated. Holidays are stressful for all families but even more so for blended families. Holidays amongst blended families often involve complex negotiations and very specific calendars. Kids may spend Christmas at multiple houses, have to split the holiday into multiple days or simply Facetime with siblings or cousins at different homes.

Most Bassett students know what it’s like to have to choose one parent over the other for at least part of the holiday. Mia Sepulveda said, ‘’It doesn’t feel right during the holidays because I don’t have both of my parents with me.’’

Some look on the bright side and choose to celebrate a double Christmas with repeat gift opening, tree decorating, and food indulgence. Anthony Moreno said, “It’s all good.  I really don’t care who I’m with because I know it’s going to be good.”

Those “lucky” enough to bring all the blended family together for the holidays including ex-husbands, wives, and all the children involved are often faced with old emotional battles that resurface once everyone is forced to be in the same room together.

Psych Central focuses on one thing: flexibility. These mental professionals suggest everyone will be happier if individuals can compromise. Winning the perfect Christmas or New Year’s may not happen, but you may be able negotiate some of your wishes into reality if those involved can give a little to get a little.